Dating a perfectionist guy


I'm starting to get worried about the amount of matches and replies I'm getting. It's far lower than what I'd expect on a normal dating site. I'll be the first to admit I'm not the most handsome of men, but surely there are some women who like the look of me out there?

According to vulnerability researcher, Dr. Brené Brown , shame is not the same as guilt. Productive guilt (not the perfectionistic kind) is adaptive - something we experience when we've made a mistake and we need to fix it. Once we take responsibility for our behavior, and do what we can to remedy our mistake, the feelings of guilt should eventually subside. Unlike productive guilt, shame doesn't subside after we've taken responsibility for our mistakes, and in fact, regardless of what we do, shame often gets worse in time, hitting us in triggered waves, sometimes for years, sometimes for our entire lives.

One problem is the suitors arrive in a random order, and you don’t know how your current suitor compares to those who will arrive in the future. Is the current guy or girl a dud? Or is this really the best you can do? The other problem is that once you reject a suitor, you often can’t go back to them later.


Dating a perfectionist guy

Dating a perfectionist guy



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